Indecision keeps us comfortable, small, stuck, safe, anxious
OK...ENOUGH with the waffling.
I want to challenge and provoke you. I am still the same supportive, caring coach you know and love...I am just pushing you to a new level.
When you are making a BIG decision...especially something in the direction of your VISION and dream, you know the answer. YOU do. Two things are at play...you are in denial of what your soul is telling you, or you are in fear to (REALLY) do something about it. This is when you know it’s time to get real with yourself. You get to TRUST yourself...listen to what you have to say. You do have the answers inside yourself!
My point is, the only thing really stopping you is you. Everything else you tell yourself is just a story. Which is awesome news and also kinda crappy news. But on the good side is that now you can do something about it!
You get to choose...am I committed to my fear or my vision. That’s it. That is the only decision.
Recently I was feeling stuck where I was at. I knew I was playing small and I even said to myself ‘I’ve not been going outside my comfort zone at all’. I knew something had to change, I knew it had to be me.
In hindsight, if I had gotten quiet and asked myself ‘what do you need/want’...I know the answer was to invest in a next level coach.
The problem was that I had made a promise to my partner and to myself that I was not going to invest in anything else until I had the money first. I had taken a smaller course a few months previously...and paid for them first. AND, the next level coach I had my eye on was the most I had paid up until that point.
So I hesitated, I tried several other things first, I took some ‘free’ programs and did nothing with them. Ultimately...I wasted my TIME!
Then I spend an entire day alone...I got super quiet and listened to my soul. I heard it loud and clear, TIME TO PLAY BIGGER.
So I made a promise that I would sign up the next day. The very next day, the exact amount I needed to get started came to me (based on my previous ACTIONS).
I had no idea how I was going to even pay for the following month, but I had faith and figured it out.
One thing I know for sure is when I say HELL YES to myself...when I trust myself and execute on the actions of that trust. Things always work out or they point me in the right direction.
So how can you apply this for your life?
How to decide if something is a HELL YES or a HELL NO.
1 - Think about your life VISION? (don’t have one? set up a quick call with Jessica to get this nailed down...it’s the foundation for EVERYTHING)
Hold the idea up to your VISION…
Aligned? Hell yes!
Not Aligned Hell no!
2 - Close your eyes and breathe. Visualize yourself doing what it is you are deciding about.
Feel excited, nervous, something in the pit of your stomach? Hell yes!
Feel nothing, neutral, comfortable, satisfied? Hell no!
3 - Still can’t decide?
GO FOR IT ANYWAY! There is no faster way to decide if something is for you than to do it. Fear and resistance will come up which is natural not something to see as a sign of NO...but you will know if you are meant to be doing it as you do it. What do you really have to lose? Time and money...oh well, you have wasted plenty of time and money up until this point...now you get to use it toward something that feels aligned and you are excited about. And as one of my clients said to me ‘IF I DON’T DO THIS, I WILL ALWAYS WONDER’.
One tip I love to bring awareness to decision making
Notice if you are always looking for external validation!!!
If over the course of this process, you are asking everyone else for their opinion, really notice that!
If it is one or two people you consider your ‘ride or die’ that is normal. If it’s people whose opinions you don’t really value that much, you may want to ask yourself WHY you are asking them!!!
As Brene Brown says...don’t initiate you inner pollster...you aren’t ‘Gallop’ :)
Ok...Here is the challenge for the week!
Start running your decisions through this model to see if they check out. Even ones you instinctively knew...how did you make that decision?
Start to see the power inside yourself. Get quiet, tap into your intuition and TRUST yourself. You are powerful beyond your wildest imagination!
Sending you lots of love